How to Be Positive and Realistic At The Same Time

Positive thinking has many benefits including increased personal happiness and improved performance. However, many people set up unrealistic expectations and lose motivation to accomplish their fantasy goals. Sadly, having unrealistic optimism can backfire. Being too positive can make you get your hopes up and set yourself up for disappointment. Therefore, it is essential to be confident and realistic. Here is how you can accomplish both:



Are your goals realistic and achievable? Can they be achieved? What will prevent you from reaching your goals? Ask yourself these questions to make sure your expectations do not get too out of hand.

Identify the obstacles

New York University psychologist Gabriele Oettingen suggests mental contrasting: Envision your goals and the barriers that will prevent you from reaching those goals. This technique helps you identify what you want to accomplish and anticipate any problems that may prevent you from being successful.

Shift your attitude

Do not underestimate the effort you need to succeed. Do not think, “I will become the best.” Instead say, “I will try my hardest to become the best.” Instead of thinking, “Nothing will get in my way,” you should instead prepare yourself for any challenges.

Don’t replace positive thinking with negative thinking

The worst thing you can do is become negative. Replacing bright and cheerful thoughts with doom and gloom is not going to help you at all; it will just make you feel bad.

Stay positive regardless of the outcome

Remember that you can choose to be confident whether you win or lose. Healthy positive thinking involves choosing to be optimistic right now. Be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you want.

It’s great to be positive, but don’t get your hopes up too high. Allow yourself to be realistic while still staying on the sunny side of life. Keep your head up and stay focused on the things that matter the most to you.