James A. Baldwin-Love Is a Battle, War and Growing Up

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.
James A. Baldwin


During our childhood years, we read stories of fairy-tales and couples living happily ever after.  As we grow older, we start to realize that love is not a fairy-tale but a battle of conflicts between two people. Love is a war of fighting to stay together, and it is growing up.

When we were kids, the love we receive from our parents were often nurturing. Our parents tried their best to make us happy, by buying us toys and cooking our favorite meals. As we grow older, the definition of love changes. Love is part of growing up because it is based on individuality. There is attraction, chemical, and a romantic feeling that comes with adult love. We realize that our partners will hurt and even leave us. Eventually, we will learn that love is about compatibility and finding the one that truly understands us.

James A. Baldwin also points some interesting words– love does not begin the way we think it does. As kids, we watch Disney movies and read books of a prince meeting a princess at a royal event, or escaping like Cinderella.  In the adult world, we will find love in the most unexpected places. And, not all love stories have happily ever after. Some of our love stories end with tears, hurt, cheating and betrayal. As grown adults, we have to recover from these awful nightmares on our own. So, love is definitely part of growing up.